Doug Tales 52: Earthbound Spirits, Part Four

If your emotions can hold you back from moving forward in your life, could those same emotions also block another person’s progress? What connection do you have to those around you? Is that connection positive or negative? Doug Mendenhall and his daughter Denise share a few experiences with emotions and their impact on others in I See…Arise! (2016) on pages 21-22:

We know that our emotions can and do have a tremendous effect on our own selves—spiritual, mental, and physical. But can OUR emotions affect others to the point that we can cause THEM distress or problems? Obviously the answer is yes. Let’s take a look at several examples.

My daughter Denise had a friend transition a year or so ago. It caused her much distress, as it does many people. She met with the family often for a while and would talk to their son through the veil. It was mainly to give them solace, but also because she didn’t want him to go; he was young, near her age.

From Denise: “One of my friends died, and I had a hard time letting him go. He was always on my mind, and I didn’t find it fair that he had to go. I would cry over this a lot. Another of my friends came over to visit for a week. I was told to go up to the place where James was buried. I didn’t want to go, and I put up a fight, but the friend that came for the week said we should go. We got some flowers and drove 2 hours.

“When we got there, I got out of the car and ran up to his grave. I wanted to start crying, but I made myself not cry. My friend felt my guilt, my sadness, and my need to cry. So he started crying and turned to me and said, ‘You’ve got to forgive yourself, say goodbye to him, and let him go.’ He went back to the car, and I sat there finally crying and saying goodbye. When I was done I felt his happiness and he even thanked me. I felt happy to finally let him go. Now I can be happy for letting him go and not holding him here.”

She realized that she was keeping him from moving on because of her focused thoughts about him and her intense emotions about his transition. After she went to his grave and made peace with him, he was allowed to move on in his progression in the world of spirits.

The location of the grave of my father is among many Polynesian families graves. We have noticed over the years the great care they give to their family grave plots, which has been nice because they will also mow over my father’s grave. I have often wondered if many of their deceased ancestors remain “stuck” at their grave sites. One time Denise was with us decorating graves. I asked her if there were many of them there. The answer was, “Yes.”

Most of us have no idea that we might possibly be keeping a loved one, friend, or anyone for that matter here on the mortal plane—earthbound. Some spirits that are earthbound stay here because they actually don’t understand that their body has died. Others that suffered a violent death seem to get stuck in that particular spot. We have written about this in our other books, but people keep doing this to others—they need to be allowed to move on. It is important to understand the power of our thoughts and emotions and the effect they have on others. Actually not just others; our thoughts and emotions have the most powerful effect on us and what we manifest into our existence.