(Softly) Ashley, can you hear me?

“Dad, I think we need to take Ashley to get her hearing checked,” my middle daughter said one day.

“Why is that?” I asked.

“Well, we will ask her to come here or do something and she just doesn’t hear us or even respond to us. I know she is three, but she should still respond and know we are talking to her. We need to get her hearing checked, we don’t think she can hear.”

The three-year-old was in the next room so I whispered real softly, “Ashley, can you hear me?”

Us adults just sat there as I got a “see” look from my daughter. A long while later Ashley said, “What do you want Grandpa?”

I told my daughter that her daughter doesn’t have a hearing problem at all; she hears just fine. Her problem is a lack of a veil and it takes her a while to come back to this world. I could see that my daughter was not a believer in what I had just said. I asked Ashley to come over and I asked her pointed questions.

“Ashley, have you seen angels?”

“Yes, Grandpa,” she answered.

“Have you seen Jesus?”

“Yes, Grandpa.”

It was then my daughter realized she had a “gifted” one in her household. I wished my daughter “good luck” with that one. Having had our youngest come back from the dead without a veil and gifted, I knew this daughter was in for an education. Some days it wouldn’t be the least bit fun. From experience I knew their life would never be the same.

That summer we had some friends over for a barbeque. One was our sighted friend without the veil. I noticed she was watching Ashley playing over by the bushes and trees by herself. Ashley seemed to be more content when left alone to play by herself. Oh she could play with her sisters just fine, but more often than not you’d find her alone with a book, drawing, or playing in nature by herself.

“So do you see yourself as a young child when you see Ashley playing?” I asked my sighted friend.

She looked like she’d been caught with her hand in the cookie jar and nodded. I continued, “Only she isn’t playing by herself, she’s playing with the sprites, isn’t she?”

“Yes,” she responded with a wry smile.

Today I asked Ashley if she remembered playing with the little fairies and such. “No,” she responded. Then she smiled and said, “Are they real?”
“Yes,” I answered. Incredibly happy she exclaimed, “I knew they were!” Seems someone’s veil might not be completely there and maybe she hasn’t been completely conditioned by society, church, and friends to not believe and to not see.

Ashley continued to grow and her parents discovered new gifts. They came and told me she would get depressed and seem to have emotional problems for no reason they could discover. (She actually went through a year and a half period where she would have super tantrums for no reason. After she was done they would ask her what the problem was and she didn’t know. It was not realized how highly sensitive Ashley is, as an empath could easily become overwhelmed with the impact of stressful situations and emotions. If her parents had not understood this was a “gifted” issue they would have taken her to Western Medicine where she would most likely have been diagnosed and put on medication.)

“You guys been having a quarrel or an argument?” I asked my daughter one day.

“How did you know?” she replied.

I told them that their daughter was empathic, meaning she can feel and absorb other people’s emotions and she had absorbed theirs. If they argue in the home she will feel it and then because she doesn’t like the emotional pain of it she will absorb that pain into herself. That will cause her problems of an emotional and even a physical nature. She can become quite ill if the home doesn’t change and become a place of peace and safety for her. Over the next few years they experienced all of this with Ashley. Because she is so young she has a hard time intellectualizing her feelings. Empaths are highly sensitive!

They found that she could take on other people’s moods. And it didn’t matter if the mood was happy or sad, good or bad. She could feel it all, deep inside and sometimes to an extreme. Empaths like to get away and be alone, this recharges them. In a group setting Ashley’s parents have found she will seek out one other person and just be with them and not the group. Sometimes there is just too much energy in a group setting and they can’t handle it. Getting away into nature is a great relief for them. A walk in the woods, or on a nature path, being in water or just sitting under a tree with a book helps them cope and release the energies and burdens they have taken on. Knowing she is empathic has been a tremendous help for Ashley. Limited and no arguing in the home has helped immensely, knowing she is taking others problems, her parents just being aware of her and what is going on around her has helped relieve the burden of being empathic. Others will tell an empath that they are too sensitive and ought to “buck it up.” It is most difficult for an empath to be around a narcissistic person because the narcissist lacks empathy and only want what’s best for them. A narcissist will suck the life out of an empath and sadly, the empath many times will allow them to do so.

One of the best things an empath can do is learn to shield themselves. I won’t discuss shielding here since it is the largest chapter in Conquering Spiritual Evil. Shielding can help alleviate many of their problems. Ashley has been taught to shield herself and that has been a tremendous blessing for her. Though since she is still a kid, there are times her parents must remind her to shield herself from what is going on and to not take it. Empaths also need to understand they don’t have the right to take away other people’s problems, pain, suffering, etc. unless they have asked and received permission from our Lord Jesus Christ. (Of course you can get by with “just asking their spirit.” Just kidding.) If an empath takes away someone’s suffering, pain or whatever they are feeling and it was an experience the Savior desired that person to have or experience, then they have done wrong and have need to repent of it. Nevertheless, learning to shield themselves is vitally important to their own health and wellbeing. If Ashley’s parents need to discipline one of her siblings they will turn to her and remind her to shield herself so she won’t get the emotions of them or the sibling. When she properly shields herself, whatever goes on does not usually affect her. What an incredible tool the Lord has given us! If she does take on some “stuff” they immediately remind her to give it to the Lord Jesus Christ. She releases it to Him and is fine.

A year ago we were invited north to help a young woman that was suicidal and had requested a blessing and casting off. After clearing the home of portals, possessed stuffed animals, skeletons and such, we talked to the young woman. After she told us about her physical problems I asked her if could stand to see young children suffer? She said she couldn’t. I asked several more questions and it confirmed my suspicions. She was an empath. After telling her this and describing what an empath is, she realized her life was being described. She had taken on so many problems and emotions from others she couldn’t take it anymore and wanted to end her life. She needed shielding and more important she needed the Lord Jesus Christ in her life, learning to give it to Him.

We have a longtime friend that our family loves dearly. She has been an empath all her life. As a child she would take on everyone else’s problems, emotions, feelings, and anything else to help make them feel better. It really made her life hard and she had no idea why. It wasn’t until just a few years ago we talked to her about being an empath. It explained her entire life. She also found out through a generational healing that thousands of her ancestors were also empaths, it was a generational gift that many felt was actually a curse. Being an empath doesn’t have to be like that. It can be a real blessing for many others, including the empath.

Being empathic doesn’t mean your life is going to be a horror show. It is a gift and blessing from God. Empaths just need to understand and learn how to live and be. Most important they need to learn to give the feelings, energy, and emotions to the Lord Jesus Christ. He can transmute that to light and then the empath can function. Empaths have some terrific things they can share and help others with. We will explore that in the next post.